Change Whisperer – Gail Severini, Symphini Change Management Inc.


Adam Grant and Brené Brown on Authenticity – Another war of titans?
June 9, 2016, 9:06 pm
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AUTHENTICIn case you missed it this weekend, the war of words is on. Here’s where I picked it up:

  • Adam Grant published “Unless You’re Oprah, ‘Be Yourself’ Is Terrible Advice”.” in the New York Times June 4 2016. There was much about this piece that resonated for me, most particularly the finale phrase, “Next time people say, “just be yourself,” stop them in their tracks. No one wants to hear everything that’s in your head. They just want you to live up to what comes out of your mouth”.

Admittedly I did not critique the piece rather took what had value for me, shared it with my network on LinkedIn and moved on.

Well if “likes” and comments count for anything, as at today, Brown is winning with 5745 likes and 766 comments vs 2179 likes and 390 comments for Grant (yes it’s not a perfect proxy but it’s interesting).

[All: Adam Grant posted a reply on Brene Brown’s LI post – please see the comments below]

A little more context

Both Adam Grant and Brené Brown are established and reputable thought leaders (as far as I can tell) and authors.  Looks to me like they work in adjacent if not overlapping space.

Brené Brown also just keynoted the finale keynote at The Association of Change Management Professionals annual conference May 18 2016.  Her work resonates for me and her keynote illuminated the application of this work on shame and inadequacy in leading and managing change.  From speaking with my network I think it resonated with most of that audience.  By “resonated” I mean to say “made sense”, “felt true”, “was consistent with what I have observed and dynamics I have experienced”.

With the most recent salvos, which are likely not over, it seems they disagree on some key points.

What is going on here?

That they disagree is actually not the issue for me – though there is very rich insight to be had by reading through each of their cases (which I will probably have to do many times). I am certainly not qualified to comment on their arguments and I won’t even attempt a synopsis (seems to me that one would have to know each of their bodies of work to do justice to that) and they make their cases eloquently enough.

As a mainstream business professional, it’s tough to know what might be really going on behind the scenes here. I get it that they want / need to defend their positions and I am told that academics hold to their theses fiercely and defending them in the academic arena is something of a gladiator sport.  I hope that’s not where this is going.  While there must be value in such an approach, for me anyway, it looks more of like watching a train wreck than building of a space station.

I will hazard a guess tho that they are both “triggered”, i.e. now reacting emotionally to what appears on the surface to be an academic debate.  One has to wonder why but probably does not need to look too far.  As the face-off escalates there is more at risk: their professional reputations, credibility, standing in their professional communities, readership, followship, book sales (today and future), etc.  It has got to be hard to stay centered in the face of these stakes … and yet, this is what is called for.

Wouldn’t we all benefit, as surely they would, if they would sit down together and explore the adjacencies and overlaps of their work – explore their differences dispassionately.  Even as I write, and you read, the word “dispassionately” it seems hard to imagine that this might have been possible before the debate let alone now …

This plays out all day every day in organizations

I think about the analogy that Brené Brown shared with us at ACMP about the stories that play in our heads, ie that in a situation where we might think we have all the information we are actually only connecting the dots that we know and often in ways that the other party is not – perhaps there are different dots in their stories.  We don’t know if we don’t have the courage of an open, honest and generous conversation.

Eating your own dogfood

I don’t know Adam Grant’s work at all, beyond that post above, but I wonder if he talks about great leadership, teamwork, problem solving, etc.  Surely Brené Brown does.

Surely they could bring some of their own advice to resolving this constructively? Seems to be that there is much in the space between these two great minds that could be better because through collaboration.

From the surface it looks like trust would have to be patched up and developed gradually.  Perhaps an independent moderator could hold space for them to have a vibrant but respectful and productive conversation?

We are all human

Seems trite but this day this is what I walk away with.  Even great minds are human.

Understanding what it means to be human is what makes us more successful together.

So much opportunity ahead of us.

What do you think?

How does this play out for you? Have you followed either or both Adam Grant and Brené Brown?

Are you interested in authenticity? From what perspective? ie. are you working from your own interpretation or do you reference any particular research?

This topic, authenticity, has driven me somewhat mad for ages (past posts below) and I follow it with interest. I don’t think we have it figured out and furthermore that misinterpretations are degrading our ability to deliver change (strategy, innovation, etc by whatever name you prefer). An example would be the critical need for leaders to become the change first (to shift their own mindsets and behaviors ahead of their teams) in order to have credibility and build trust that it will work, they are committed and they will ‘cover’ their teams (hence my joy at Adam Grant’s phrase).

How do you think this plays out in our work? Seems to me that such research is critical for us to advance our work so it is essential that the research is sound and applicable.

Please do share your thoughts in the comments.  This is a learning journal for me and I appreciate your insights. I hope you get something of this exercise in working out loud.

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Addressing personal triggers. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 4

“As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Water pouring into a pitcher, isolated on the white background, clipping path included.

We left off the last post with a project scenario, a discussion of some of the dynamics in the project team and a resolution to work on creating space to process personal emotional triggers properly and build the “muscle” to operate in real time.

The weird thing

On a good day I begin with a calm and objective assessment of the situation.  I remain centered and effective.

I can review whether our plans and execution were appropriate and effective, and can develop mitigation strategies if necessary. continue reading here



#1 change challenge. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 3

“The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers.  They are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being.” Teal Swan

Collaborate Speaking Authenticity

I was speaking with a senior, experienced change practitioner, whom I have deep respect for, a couple of weeks ago and we got around to talking about what was, for me, a guilty secret:

I am often triggered by the change I am working on.  It is likely my #1 challenge.

“What does that mean?” you might say. Well, it means that I sometimes get frustrated enough that I temporarily lose my mind … I mean … I lose objectivity.

Truth is: something occurs that I start to take personally – and it’s … distracting. continue reading here



Us vs them. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions series. Part 2

 “A healthy self-love that leads to true happiness is what Rousseau called “amour de soi”.  It builds up one’s intrinsic well-being as opposed to feeding shallow cravings to be admired. Cultivating amour de soi requires being fully alive at this moment as opposed to being virtually alive while wondering what others think.”Narcissism is increasing. So you’re so not special”, New York Times,  Arthur C. Brooks, Feb 13 2016

dreamstime_s_59832435 cat mirror lionIn the previous post we looked at why we do this work – because passion is important for the journey. Now we will look at how we practice.

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A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 1

“A confession has to be part of your new life.” Ludwig Wittgenstein

fireworks bing freewareThe beginning of a new year always holds a strange promise – and pressure – to manage one’s own personal change in the larger continuum of one’s life.

The convention that one should look back on the last year and forward to the next one with the objective of re-setting, re-calibrating and re-imagining our lives is a powerful one.

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Strategy and Strategy Execution Conferences 2016

conference-chairsAs the world changes, is your Strategy and Strategy Execution keeping up?  Is your organization effectively transforming to outperform your competitors?

Conferences are a great way to tap into thought leadership and innovation.

Here’s a little more motivation – from Strategy&’s “Research on the Strategy Execution Gap”:

  • “46% of respondents say they’re concerned their company’s strategy isn’t bold enough and that “the goals it sets aren’t high enough for us to win.”
  • “A majority of executives – 55% – say they are concerned that their company “is not focused on executing our strategy.””.

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Change Management Conferences 2016 – Eating our own dog food

Dog tastes delicious foodIf it seems like change is endless … well it is endless.  Maybe we should think of it as evolution instead.

For the last 5 or so years the general theme has been “we live in a VUCA world, how can we change faster?”

Hopefully in the coming years we will adapt our own view towards “Embrace ‘new normal’ – let’s adapt our organizations accordingly”.

Will we eat our own dog food?  What are the trends and hot topics this year?  Check out the conference agendas listed below.  

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