Change Whisperer – Gail Severini, Symphini Change Management Inc.

Addressing personal triggers. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 4

“As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Water pouring into a pitcher, isolated on the white background, clipping path included.

We left off the last post with a project scenario, a discussion of some of the dynamics in the project team and a resolution to work on creating space to process personal emotional triggers properly and build the “muscle” to operate in real time.

The weird thing

On a good day I begin with a calm and objective assessment of the situation.  I remain centered and effective.

I can review whether our plans and execution were appropriate and effective, and can develop mitigation strategies if necessary. continue reading here

#1 change challenge. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 3

“The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers.  They are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being.” Teal Swan

Collaborate Speaking Authenticity

I was speaking with a senior, experienced change practitioner, whom I have deep respect for, a couple of weeks ago and we got around to talking about what was, for me, a guilty secret:

I am often triggered by the change I am working on.  It is likely my #1 challenge.

“What does that mean?” you might say. Well, it means that I sometimes get frustrated enough that I temporarily lose my mind … I mean … I lose objectivity.

Truth is: something occurs that I start to take personally – and it’s … distracting. continue reading here