Change Whisperer – Gail Severini, Symphini Change Management Inc.

Addressing personal triggers. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 4

“As far as inner transformation is concerned, there is nothing you can do about it. You cannot transform yourself, and you cannot transform your partner or anybody else. All you can do is create a space for transformation to happen, for grace and love to enter.” ~Eckhart Tolle

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We left off the last post with a project scenario, a discussion of some of the dynamics in the project team and a resolution to work on creating space to process personal emotional triggers properly and build the “muscle” to operate in real time.

The weird thing

On a good day I begin with a calm and objective assessment of the situation.  I remain centered and effective.

I can review whether our plans and execution were appropriate and effective, and can develop mitigation strategies if necessary. continue reading here

#1 change challenge. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 3

“The people who trigger us to feel negative emotion are messengers.  They are messengers for the unhealed parts of our being.” Teal Swan

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I was speaking with a senior, experienced change practitioner, whom I have deep respect for, a couple of weeks ago and we got around to talking about what was, for me, a guilty secret:

I am often triggered by the change I am working on.  It is likely my #1 challenge.

“What does that mean?” you might say. Well, it means that I sometimes get frustrated enough that I temporarily lose my mind … I mean … I lose objectivity.

Truth is: something occurs that I start to take personally – and it’s … distracting. continue reading here

Us vs them. A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions series. Part 2

 “A healthy self-love that leads to true happiness is what Rousseau called “amour de soi”.  It builds up one’s intrinsic well-being as opposed to feeding shallow cravings to be admired. Cultivating amour de soi requires being fully alive at this moment as opposed to being virtually alive while wondering what others think.”Narcissism is increasing. So you’re so not special”, New York Times,  Arthur C. Brooks, Feb 13 2016

dreamstime_s_59832435 cat mirror lionIn the previous post we looked at why we do this work – because passion is important for the journey. Now we will look at how we practice.

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A virtuous cycle of confessions and resolutions. Part 1

“A confession has to be part of your new life.” Ludwig Wittgenstein

fireworks bing freewareThe beginning of a new year always holds a strange promise – and pressure – to manage one’s own personal change in the larger continuum of one’s life.

The convention that one should look back on the last year and forward to the next one with the objective of re-setting, re-calibrating and re-imagining our lives is a powerful one.

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Stepping into your voice―10 ways to get started (Liberate your voice series, Post 3 of 3)

Confidence Presentations Speaking“A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows there.” Unknown

This is the third and final post in the series. “Your voice matters-liberate it” and “Find your voice―the power of authenticity” are below.

Sometimes learning new things is nerve-racking, frightening even.  Sometimes it pays to experiment a little before diving in. continue reading here

Find your voice―the power of your authenticity (Liberate your voice series, Post 2 of 3)
January 22, 2015, 8:30 am
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Collaborate Speaking Authenticity“There is nothing more beautiful than seeing a person being themselves. Imagine going through your day being unapologetically you.”―Steve Maraboli

This is the second post in the series. “Your voice matters-liberate it” is below. Here we continue to explore ways to bring your important views into the public square. continue reading here

Your voice matters―liberate it (Liberate your voice series, Post 1 of 3)
January 15, 2015, 8:06 pm
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Confidence Speaking Authenticity“Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom.”―Marilyn Ferguson

What does it mean to “liberate your voice”? It means to speak aloud, in any room.  It means to share your observations and opinions.  Every one of us behaves on a continuum from “not enough” to “way too much”.  This post is for those who would like to move from “not enough” into the middle.

Of course narcissists (yes, those of you with a high ratio of “I”s, “me”s, and “my”s in your expressions) can stop reading now.

For many of us, speaking out is difficult.  We may worry that we are not qualified or that we are missing something.  We may be concerned about how others will view us – as stupid or as arrogant.  This is not an easy balance and I don’t claim to have it all figured out.  I have, however, experimented quite a bit and stretched my own comfort zone over the past 5 years or so.  These three posts are intended to share some of the techniques I have used. continue reading here